Top Five Reasons I Don't Do New Year's Resolutions
In our house, Christmakkah was a blast! We lit the Hanukkah candles with our Christmas tree shining behind us and played Christmas music while making latkes. The holidays are a special time. As much as I always intend on sitting back and enjoying it, every year I feel like I’m so busy baking and shopping and stressing to get everything done before time runs out. This year was no different, and it’s hard to believe that we’re already approaching 2020!
In addition to a busy baking schedule, I’m working hard to get CurvedWear launched. I was hoping to write to you with excitement about how the prototype pants were finally perfect and ready for pre-orders. But instead, I’m writing with frustration and disappointment that we still have a lot of work to do to get the pattern exactly the way I want it, exactly how we curvy gals need it. I know that we’ll get it, but it’s taking longer than I had hoped or expected.
I know that someday I’ll look back on this frustrating time with humor or a sense of resilience. But in the meantime, I’m just pushing on to resolve—no, to make sure—that CurvedWear pants get into the hands of curvy gals everywhere in early 2020.
Why am I not “resolving” to do this? Well, I’ve never believed in New Year’s resolutions. I’ve never nailed down exactly why, so I thought it was as good a time as any to figure it out. So here are my top five reasons I don’t do New Year’s resolutions:
1. If something is important to do, I feel like I should be striving to do it every day, not just reminding myself once a year. I don’t need the added pressure of a made-up rule dictating what I have to do when.
2. Statistically, about 80 percent of all resolutions fail by February! One study even found that a quarter of resolutions are given up by the end of the first week in January. There are many reasons why resolutions fail: we’re not truly ready for a change, we have no real accountability, or we don’t actually plan or think through what’s required to achieve the resolution. In any event, at the end of the day (or year!), I don’t want to set myself up for failure.
3. A mere resolution isn’t enough motivation for me to do something or get something done. Goals have to make long-term sense for me, so resolving to do or not do things just because it’s what I’m “supposed” to do at this time of year doesn’t appeal to me. Why can’t I just continue working on the goals I’ve already set for myself?
4. Rather than focusing on “should-ing” all over myself, I’ve been working on focusing being more in the moment and appreciating the things around me. And appreciating me, with all of my flaws and faults. Apparently, gratitude is the new black, so I’m trying to wear much more of it.
5. Finally, why stress myself out? With a career, a family with two tiny humans, and a business to launch, I definitely have enough stress already. I already hold way too high expectations of myself and cause myself enough anxiety when I’m not “doing it all” and doing it perfectly (knowing full well that that’s not realistic). I can’t handle adding even more expectations of myself!
6. Bonus reason: I’ve never been one to “go with the flow” simply because everyone else is doing it, or because everyone else says “don’t do it,” “it’s not worth it,” or my favorite, “you’re just going to fail anyway.” If I’m going to fail at something, it will be on my own terms. 😊
Whether you make resolutions or go with the flow, I wish you a happy, healthy, safe, and prosperous 2020! And I look forward to bringing CurvedWear to life with you in the coming year.
Happy new year!